Comments on: Options and Play http://catskillcottageseed.com/2008/10/04/options-and-play/ Positioning within the Imaginal Mon, 16 Apr 2012 18:04:27 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9 hourly 1 By: kidsrtc http://catskillcottageseed.com/2008/10/04/options-and-play/comment-page-1/#comment-38 kidsrtc Sun, 05 Oct 2008 02:37:33 +0000 http://catskillcottageseed.com/?p=560#comment-38 I agree with David, my son is now 16 and he always had troubled making decisions. I see it today, but I think he is beginning to recognize he has to make decisions on his own. Why can't we have it all? I agree with David, my son is now 16 and he always had troubled making decisions. I see it today, but I think he is beginning to recognize he has to make decisions on his own. Why can’t we have it all?

]]> By: David Miller http://catskillcottageseed.com/2008/10/04/options-and-play/comment-page-1/#comment-37 David Miller Sat, 04 Oct 2008 16:44:36 +0000 http://catskillcottageseed.com/?p=560#comment-37 I can relate to this very well. When my son was little, he would be "traumatized" by the number of choices at the candy aisle. Finally, we worked it out to where he would pick 3 options, I would say no to 1 of the 3, then he would have to decide between the 2. Don't know if that would work for anyone else, but he is now 21 and can walk up to a candy aisle and make a decision usually in a minute or less. (Although I sometimes see him discreetly running through the old process - playing both parts! :-)) ) <a href="http://blog.mpstrax.net" rel="nofollow">David Miller</a> I can relate to this very well. When my son was little, he would be “traumatized” by the number of choices at the candy aisle. Finally, we worked it out to where he would pick 3 options, I would say no to 1 of the 3, then he would have to decide between the 2. Don’t know if that would work for anyone else, but he is now 21 and can walk up to a candy aisle and make a decision usually in a minute or less. (Although I sometimes see him discreetly running through the old process – playing both parts! :-) ) )
David Miller

]]> By: Alden Smith http://catskillcottageseed.com/2008/10/04/options-and-play/comment-page-1/#comment-36 Alden Smith Sat, 04 Oct 2008 13:53:00 +0000 http://catskillcottageseed.com/?p=560#comment-36 Interesting and thoughtful post. Things are certainly different today than when I grew up in the 40's and 50's. My dad was a farmer, my mother a homemaker. We were quite poor, but didn't know it. Our family was large, and we grew up not with toys and computers and structured playtime, but with a sense of freedom and choice. We read a great deal. listened to music, and spent Saturday nights around a big old Zenith radio. My, how times have changed! Interesting and thoughtful post. Things are certainly different today than when I grew up in the 40’s and 50’s. My dad was a farmer, my mother a homemaker. We were quite poor, but didn’t know it. Our family was large, and we grew up not with toys and computers and structured playtime, but with a sense of freedom and choice. We read a great deal. listened to music, and spent Saturday nights around a big old Zenith radio. My, how times have changed!

]]> By: Juliann Grant http://catskillcottageseed.com/2008/10/04/options-and-play/comment-page-1/#comment-35 Juliann Grant Sat, 04 Oct 2008 12:02:00 +0000 http://catskillcottageseed.com/?p=560#comment-35 Funny but that is true. I confess to have had a few barbie dolls that I constantly played with and my imagination was wild. What I had was time alone to play, and a few items I loved. On another side, sometimes we get stuck on focusing on what we don't want, vs. what we really do want and chaos/disappointment ensues. Example: This week my grandson was having a melt down because he wanted a turn at the drum set while my son was playing around. All he could do was whine over the fact that he was not getting his turn at that moment. So I asked him why are you so sad? And he said whined "not my turn, not my turn" so I said "But you are going to have a turn" and still whining "not my turn" and I asked "Let's think about having your turn" and he looked hopeful and smiled and I asked "What will you do when you have your turn" And he marched proudly all over the deck, drumming away (on nothing of course). Then when we went inside, he got his turn. Don't we all do this? I know I do. I can relate the challenge of your colleague's child worried that he didn't have enough time to choose his special treat, and possibly your son worried that the didn't have all the items he needed, when in fact they both had everything right there all the time. Thanks for the stories! Funny but that is true. I confess to have had a few barbie dolls that I constantly played with and my imagination was wild. What I had was time alone to play, and a few items I loved. On another side, sometimes we get stuck on focusing on what we don’t want, vs. what we really do want and chaos/disappointment ensues. Example: This week my grandson was having a melt down because he wanted a turn at the drum set while my son was playing around. All he could do was whine over the fact that he was not getting his turn at that moment. So I asked him why are you so sad? And he said whined “not my turn, not my turn” so I said “But you are going to have a turn” and still whining “not my turn” and I asked “Let’s think about having your turn” and he looked hopeful and smiled and I asked “What will you do when you have your turn” And he marched proudly all over the deck, drumming away (on nothing of course). Then when we went inside, he got his turn.

Don’t we all do this? I know I do. I can relate the challenge of your colleague’s child worried that he didn’t have enough time to choose his special treat, and possibly your son worried that the didn’t have all the items he needed, when in fact they both had everything right there all the time.

Thanks for the stories!

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