Denial

In many ways the concept of denial is a catch 22, for as I often hear explained when working at a therapeutic boarding school, it’s kind of like this:

When you’re in denial you don’t even know your lying to yourself

In many ways that’s a really good descriptor for the way all unconscious processes work, including projection (when we see the fault or blame for something in someone else…or all the exceptional qualities for that matter as well).

To claim the psyche is elusive is an understatement.  The challenge is to provide consciousness to with some experiences that will open out to the reality of the unconscious process that are always taking place.  Otherwise the danger is that wildly incorrect assumptions as to one’s role, capacity, identity, or relationships can lead to what we might mildly term as a derailment.  Life will in effect come off the tracks.

So…I wonder how I’m lying to myself today?